YUMMY: Spinach Quiche

One of my favorite fall foods has to be Quiche! Its great for breakfast brunch and even dinner a truly all purpose food. Its simple to make and you can put whatever you wan in it honestly. This Quiche recipe is one of my favorites I got from Allrecipes.com . It is perfect if your entertaining guests or for you and your family.

Ingredients: (You can add or remove ingredients according to your own personal taste!)

• 1/2 cup butter
• 3 cloves garlic, chopped
• 1 small onion, chopped
• 1 (10 ounce) package frozen chopped spinach, thawed and drained
• 1 (4.5 ounce) can mushrooms, drained
• 1 (6 ounce) package herb and garlic feta, crumbled
• 1 (8 ounce) package shredded Cheddar cheese
• salt and pepper to taste
• 1 (9 inch) unbaked deep dish pie crust
• 4 eggs, beaten
• 1 cup milk
• salt and pepper to taste

Directions: (Takes about an Hour)

1. Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C).
2. In a medium skillet, melt butter over medium heat. Saute garlic and onion in butter until lightly browned, about 7 minutes. Stir in spinach, mushrooms, feta and 1/2 cup Cheddar cheese. Season with salt and pepper. Spoon mixture into pie crust.
3. In a medium bowl, whisk together eggs and milk. Season with salt and pepper. Pour into the pastry shell, allowing egg mixture to thoroughly combine with spinach mixture.
4. Bake in preheated oven for 15 minutes. Sprinkle top with remaining Cheddar cheese, and bake an additional 35 to 40 minutes, until set in center. Allow to stand 10 minutes before serving.

Fabulous Fluffy Fall

Yes God its my favorite time of the year Automate!!! I love the colors, weather, fashion, food and of course the holidays! This is the time of the year when the wind begins to whistle, the leaves begin to change color and we begin to transition  our wardrobes. We trade in our crop tops for cardigans and sandals for saddle boots. I love shopping for fall it gives me a chance to add to my collection of hats, scarf, sweaters, coats and all the cozy things I adore. This is also a time to recycle some of your summer gear and use it as a more versatile garment.

This fresh fall look uses a tribal button up collard shirt that could easily transition throughout the seasons! For more details on the outfit contact my handsome model via Instagram @DiamondDash_

I am a huge boot lover! I love all kinds of boots especially in the fall and winter months. Tall boots and riding boots are always in but if you are a plus size lady with thick legs like myself it can sometimes be next to impossible to find boots that go over the calf muscle easily. I have this problem every fall so I began to search for a sexy comfortable boot. Thank God for Forever 21+ felt my pain and have included fashionable boots with a calf extension to their collection. They have a great variety of color and textures to choose from not to mention their selection of booties! They are a great place to check out if you share this problem with me.

Forever21+ Website Link

Forever21+ not only had a great shoe selection but also some very cute, creative, and affordable sweaters that are always great for Fall comfort. 

Forever21+ Link to Website

If you know me you know I love a fly ass coat for fall. A coat has to provide comfort, be light enough but most important be warm and cozy! One of my favorite websites to check out  really stylish and trendy coats is Fashion to Figure. They also have a few boutiques in  the Upper East coast so if your in the NY, NJ, CT, MD area look for the closes one near you. When I'm in New York I go to the boutique in King Plaza mall on Flatbush Avenue in Brooklyn. There coasts are really affordable ( Nothing over 50$) and they can last a while if taken care of properly.

Fashion To Figure Web Link

Although fall is typically when you cover up there are still times when you want to go out and be sexy. I love a long sleeve club dress in fall. The sleeves not only keep you warm in the street but they also add to the allure of your outfit. Sophistication is key when it comes to club dresses because you can go from a class act to ratchet rather quickly if your not mindful. I found plenty of dresses fitting for fall on a website called Curvaceous Boutique.  They have a great quality product and great service.

CurvaceousBoutique Web Link


"I don't have it all figured out I'm just trying to get my figure right!"

"Twerk Out"

As a fluffy lady I have to always stay up on my diet and exercise. In my experiences I have learned that the more interesting the work out plan, the easier it is for a person to stick to it. Today's progression of more unorthodox fitness plans are far from the 80's workout era of VHS and leotards. There is almost every kind of work out you can think of now. Trendy workouts always come and go but the most important thing is that you find a plan that actually works for you. If you love to dance whether it be in the club or even in the privacy of your own home its always a great workout. The recent new dance craze called Twerking has become a major epidemic in not only the Hip-Hop community but all genres of people thanks to controversial buzz of Miley Cyrus. Twerking is not only a sexual dance done for likes on social networks but it can also be a great source of a workout.

Twerking can be defined as the rapid gyration of the gluteus muscles in the thighs and derriere region. This rapid muscle movement done in proper repetition can serve as a very healthy and fun way to workout. Twerking requires the muscles in your legs, thighs, and butt to synchronize in turn promoting a more tones physical appearance in your lower body. The rapid movement of your body with the music also promotes the elevation of your heart rate allowing your body to burn calories. The cardio and toning aspects of twerking make it one of the most creative and low maintenance effective exercises. The only real supplies needed for twerking are comfortable clothing, lots of space and your favorite ass shaking music lol.

So when you hear your favorite twerk anthem don't be afraid to shake something. Enjoy it and own your twerk! The most important part of it all is to have fun and DON'T DROP THAT THUN THUN THUN! lol

I don't have it all figured out, I'm just trying to get my figure right.

Long Distance Love

One of the greatest things a person can experience in this life is to find that one other human being in the world you can give your heart to. In my opinion love is a combination of so many different feelings all wrapped up into one distinct emotion. Love is joyous, painful, exciting, confusing and so many other things but one thing love will never be is PREDICTABLE. When two people come together and decided that there ready to embark on a romantic relationship love can often be tested....especially if you live NO WHERE NEAR your partner. Long distance relationships are more common now than ever before. With the huge access of communication technology its simple to keep in contact with a person from a distance but when that person is the man or women you love its NEVER AN EASY MATTER.

Don't get me wrong I am no love guru but I feel like I myself am going through the process of learning how to maintain a healthy long distance relationship. I know your probabley thinking what the hell do you know about being in a long distance relationship Ms.Fluffy Figures... well I honestly know a little something because the love of my life lives a driving distance of over 10 hours away from me. I am currently a resident of Atlanta, GA and my significant other lives in the state of New York. I met my boyfriend on March 13th, 2010 at a party in Atlanta. He was visiting his mother (who coincidentally lives right down the street from my mother's house lol) and of course with my luck I met him the weekend he was going back home. We shared some dances and eventually exchanged numbers. He asked me "Will You Be My Girlfriend For the Weekend?", I laughed and agreed to his silly proposal and we hit it off from there. We stayed in contact after that weekend and eventually became close friends over the years. I'm from New York as well so I would see him when I went back home to visit my family and he saw me when he came to visit his mom in Georgia. Our friendship grew into true love throughout the years but we still never really considered being in an actual relationship because of the distance....until a certain chain of events occurred and we realized the love we both had for each other was worth a try. The Long-Distance is still very fresh for me so everyday is a new learning experience for us but I have learned how to deal with a few common hurdles most people face when it comes to allowing the relationship to run as smoothly as possible.

DISMISS OUTSIDE NEGATIVITY: The romantic love between two people can never be defined  by any outsider because it is exclusively formulated for YOU & YOUR PARTNER! When your in a long distance relationship there will always be some type of opinion thrown at you even when your not asking for it. People do not respond well to things they don't understand and as easily as it is to feed into everyone else's opinion sometimes you have to follow you own mind. The only people who will truly understand your  relationship is you and your love. You cant let people's negative vibes become a factor in your relationship. Would you let someone from the outside come in your bed to cuddle up with you and your boo...Hell No! So why let them cuddle up in your relationship with their negativity? I have learned that it is better to listen to my own gut feeling rather than running to everyone else for theirs. Look to your family and friends for support because you will need it from time to time but in the end you will be the best at judging your own situation as long as you keep in real and stay true to yourself.

LEARN TO TRUST: In any relationship near or far TRUST IS EVERYTHING! If you cant trust your partner there is no reason to even consider a relationship let alone a long distance commitment. People often don't understand that trust goes way past just being monogamous within your relationship. Trusting someone means that when all the chips are down you trust that person to have your back and be there for you. If you are unsure that you can trust that a person will be there for you through the rain as well as the sunshine than they are not the one for you plain and simple. Everyone has there jealous/insecure moments in a relationship IT'S NORMAL but those moments should be few and far between. Most of us have been hurt before but you cant let a past relationship ruin your current situation JUST MOVE ON. If you find yourself always feeling insecure in your own relationship there is a problem.... either your partner is an ass hole or you have some growing to do as a person before you can continue in any relationship especially one from a distance. I have never really been a jealous person in general so I never really had to deal with major trust issues. My rules are simple, if I have the feeling that I cant trust you based off your actions I wont even give you the time of day. If I allow a person to come into my life and they abuse my trust in any way they have to go and that's just real. I won't let anyone turn me into the crazy jealous girlfriend because that's just not me....I don't snoop, go through phones or none of that bull shit because I don't even allow it to get that far. Once I feel like I cant trust you and I have to take time out to start playing detective for whatever reason that means its time for you to go. No relationship can work without trust and if you don't have it work on it or just be real with yourself and cut your losses.

UTILIZE TECHNOLOGY: We live in the era of Facebook, Video Chat, & Smartphones There is no reason why you should have communication issues in a long distant relationship. Conversation is a HUGE chunk of your relationship so it should flow very naturally when you are with your partner. Most of the time people in long distance relationships communicate better than couples who live in the same damn house. We have that connection because we have no other choice. If you cant see your partner as often as you would like you should practice using the web cam. Web cams give you the visual connect you long for as well as allowing you to feel closer to your partner. I personally feel like my boyfriend is right in the room with me when we talk on the phone....scary I know lol the connection just feels that strong. If your interested in the more physical connection get creative with pictures and video. I don't know about you but I like sex and that is one of the hardest parts of being so distant but when you do get that together time TAKE ADVANTAGE! Panties off first, conversation later lol. Durex, the condom company, is actually working on an app called "Funderwear" powered through iPhone. This app allows you to put on special underwear that receives stimulation with the control of your partners cell phone so its like there touching your fun parts....SOUNDS CRAZY I KNOW it takes phone sex to a whole new level lol! That may not the be the route for you (or me lol) but its still very interesting.

More information and video demonstration of Durex "Funderwear" at the link below
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/19/durex-vibrating-underwear_n_3116777.html

MAKE TIME: You have to set times where you can get the chance to actually see each other. It may be hard financially so you have to plan ahead but don't let to much time past if you can control it. You are in an actual relationship so you still need to make time for each other. My financial tip is PLAN AHEAD most transportation tickets are always cheaper the earlier you book them so keep up with discounts and times. Also bring friends along to split the gas price. Turn your visit into a mini vacation and you can divide the coast of the trip. Take turns in who travels where if you can. This makes it more fair to everyone's pockets.

PLAN FOR RELOCATION: The reality of long distance relationships is that they should be a temporary thing. If the relationship is serious enough one of you should be considering a permanent relocation. Let's be clear neither one of you should just up and leave without a legitimate plan. Don't ever relocate unless you are 100% that the move will be the best thing for YOU! You need to be sure that even if this relationship dose not last that you will still be stable and it wasn't in vain. You honestly cannot go your whole life in a long distance relationship so something is going to have to happen whether you move, they move or you both move on. Good Luck in your journey through the long distance commitments and wish me luck as well!

 

Masturbating Metabolism

 I believe that 90 percent of the women in the world Masturbate and the other 10 percent are most likely all pathological liars lol. If you are unsure of the true meaning of the word masturbation, the textbook definition according to www.Merriam-Webster.com is; "[The] erotic stimulation especially of one's own genital organs commonly resulting in orgasm and achieved by manual or other bodily contact exclusive of sexual intercourse, by instrumental manipulation, occasionally by sexual fantasies, or by various combinations of these agencies." In plain English masturbation is nothing more than trying to obtain sexual pleasure and reach and orgasmic peak without the use of another persons genitals, Instead you manually stimulate yourself with you hands or my personal preference with the use of a sex toy of some kind. 

Female Sexuality was more widely acceptable and celebrated in more ancient times such as the renaissance period.  In the artist, Titian's painting "Venus of Urbino" The female in this portrait is Masturbating. 

Many people consider masturbation to be taboo or even a perversion in some senses but in actuality it is a very natural and even healthy sexual act. Masturbation has even been a proven factor in weight loss.....YEA I SAID IT "PETTING THE KITTY" HELPS WITH WEIGHT LOSS!!! If you have ever exercised for a long period of time you notice you feel a sense of Euphoria (Good Feeling) which is caused by positive blood flow throughout the body.....Now if you have masturbated for a period long enough to orgasm you will also notice you feel that same euphoric feeling there is a reason for that! Losing weight is ALL ABOUT burning more calories than you consume and most sexual act are extremely physical depending on your sex life of course so they are GREAT for burning calories. Masturbating in particular is very good for keeping the heart rate up before or after an exercise routine. Masturbation also helps positive blood flow in the body thus promoting heart health and a more functional cardiovascular system. This means when you decide to do any cardio exercises such as going jogging or anything strenuous you wont lose your breath as easily. 

Aside from just losing weight masturbation has many sexual-health benefits as well. Every time you masturbate your sexual organs are releasing once you reach an orgasm and ultimately cleansing themselves. If you are a woman masturbation also promotes more ACTUAL orgasms during sex with your partner.....I know you had to fake a few once before lol! I personally had never reached a sexual orgasm before I began to masturbate. When you manually stimulate yourself it makes it easier for your "Hot Spots" to be stimulated again with the help of a partner. Climaxing during sex promotes weight loss by exorcising the vaginal muscles and again working for your cardiovascular system. Experimenting with your partner during masturbation can help you more easily reach your climax rather than being alone and it helps you both learn more about each others bodies.

Do not be scared to explore your body its a normal thing and believe it or not most of us have done it whether we where in a relationship or not. Masturbation is not an shameful act and honestly its less risky than any other sex act because you obviously cant gain a potential Sexually Transmitted Disease from a sexual partner. Pleasuring yourself can sometimes be more satisfying than actual sex with a partner and that's just 100% real..... the health and weight loss benefits are a HUGE PLUS in it all. So the next time your alone and comfortable don't be scared to try something new..... Nobody Knows Your Body Better Than You!

                           I don't have it all figured out, I'm just trying to get my figure right!

Breaking Through the Breakup

No matter who you are or where your from there is one universal fact of life, SERIOUSLY BAD BREAKUPS ALWAYS SUCK!....That being said its all up to you how long it takes for you to get your mind back right! I myself have been through a truly bad breakup in my lifetime and I had to get myself back together as hard as it may have felt at the time but it was something I had to do! Everyone deals with their emotions a little differently and that's one of the most important things to remember when getting over a bad breakup. The aftermath of a bad breakup has its stages and you have to work through each stage. In the words of the ratchets There are Levels to this honey! lol

Level 1 Pity Party: The initial aftermath of a breakup is like a fresh wound...IT HURTS LIKE HELL! My advice to anyone in this level of the breakup give yourself a Day ALONE to have your little pity party. Drag yourself to the store and buy some tissues to get your cry on, some headache meds for after you got your scream on and of course buy your favorite snacks so you can get your eat on (Try healthy snacks no need to be depressed and gaining weight lol) . Put on the sad love songs and your most comfortable pajamas and don't put on anything else for the day. This is your time to express all of your sadness and rage without having to deal with any one else's opinion or judgement. I love emotional writing so what I tend to do is get my pen, my pad and just write it out. Something about the tears rolling down my face onto the paper as I write my feelings out is so therapeutic for me. Once I'm done writing and my tears have all dried up I fold the paper up and set it on fire! A little dramatic I know but its all in good symbolism. Get some rest and look forward to the next day. Depending on the type of person you are you may not even need an entire day just make sure you make that alone time for yourself.

Level 2 Turn Up: After you have had your day alone to vent its time to call on your best friends for their support. Your friends and family are usually the biggest support system you have so you have to look to them in these times when you really need the attention. Get dressed up, beautify that hair and make-up and have a fabulous girls night out! This is the time for you to truly enjoy your friends company and just release all the negative vibes. I know this step can sometimes be harder to do when you are still a little hurt but that's why your friends are there for to support you and lift you out your slump....so Laugh, Drink, Dance sweat your weave out and  have a great night.

Level 3 Work it Out: Find a workout plan (if you didn't already have one) and stick with it. This level of the breakup is strictly for your overall wellness. Working out is a great way to promote the clarity of your mind, body and soul...after any pain clarity is key to recovery. I like to walking because it gives me a chance to think and just experience piece of mind. I love workout tapes as well because they show you exactly what you need to do and are usually fun.  A new group of Fitness videos I would recommend are made by a company called "No Waist Gang". You can find these videos on YouTube (Links below). Working out can truly help you get whatever drama you have going on off your mind and is necessary especially after a bad breakup. Not to mention the fact that your getting in shape!

No Waist Gang!

Level 4 Move On!!!: This step is self explanatory! You truly have to move on from the past and look forward to your future endeavors. Some people that are brought in our lives are not meant to be permanent fixtures in our presence but they have taught us lessons that will never leave us. Life goes on and TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS. Live Life and Love again!

                           I don't have it all figured out, I'm just trying to get my figure right!

Pretty for a Big Girl....WTF?

I've been considered a "Big Girl" literally MY ENTIRE LIFE. I went from being called a chubby baby, to a fat child, then a thick teenager until recently at the age of 20 I FINALLY decided to take control and come up with my own name..."Fluffy". People who do not understand what it means to be fluffy are often ignorant to the fact that we do not appreciate "Backhanded Compliments". If you are unsure of the meaning of the phrase "Backhanded Compliment" my formal definition is as follows; An Insult wrapped up and presented to you as a compliment by a Dumb Ass Person. Have ever been told "You Look Good For A....(fill in the bank)? If so You have been the VICTIM of the Backhanded Compliment.

Baby Me! Chubby Cheeks, HUGE Forehead aint much change! lol

     
NO ONE is exempt from receiving this form of ignorance because at the end of the day most humans in the world do not fit into societies mold of beauty. Your too black, Your Hair isn't Long enough, Your skins too Pastie, Your too tall, You have Crooked teeth, Your too fat, or not thick enough ....ext. THE LIST CAN GO ON FOREVER!  Not everyone is going to like what you look like or even understand how you could possibly love the way you look but none of that really matters once you find happiness within yourself. That might sound really cliche but believe me I tell you know lies. I have sat on my own fat ass and CRIED about having a fat ass! Meanwhile right next door is a girl crying because she think her booty is too little. Many of us know what it feels like to look in the mirror and not appreciate what you see because of what someone else said so trust I've been there & done that. There has to be a time where you reach an epiphany and begin loving you. Once you've gotten to that happy stage in your life all those backhanded compliments can never hurt you, they will be nothing more than some annoying shit a foolish person once said to you with a smile.

American researcher and artist Nickolay Lamm created a Barbie doll using the measurements of an average 19 year old woman. Society vs. Reality

In a perfect world there would be no such thing as being pretty for a big girl but until we reach that social utopia all we can do is correct the ignorance one person at a time. The next time a person feels the need to attach some negativity to a compliment don't except it. CORRECT THEM!!!!! Ex.Your so pretty for big girl....Respond No Honey I'm just Very Pretty & Thank you for noticing! Don't be rude just correct the ignorance & if a person has a problem with your correction Leave there Dumb Ass Alone...PERIOD...Clearly they like being an ignorant person and that is no concern of yours. Like I said before changing others opinion of you is unnecessary when you have a positive self image but we as human beings need to work on stopping the ignorance one Foolish Compliment at a time.

Thank You Taylor Mon`e For this Wonderful Topic (On IG @Callmet_Money)

                           I don't have it all figured out, I'm just trying to get my figure right!

Road Trip Rules

ROAD-TRIP!!!!!! Everyone Loves a good road trip. Good friends on the road enjoying great conversation, music and the beautiful view of the open road. The anticipation of arriving at your designated destination is enough to fuel the entire ride there. What more could you ask for right? Road trips are truly all fun and games ...Well at least until the your tired, sweaty, dirty, hungry, anxious & you've gained 8 pounds snacking on EVERYTHING you could find during this long ass trip lol! I love road trips and I'm a firm believer that ALL DIETS ARE OFF during vacation but there is no reason to waste all those calories on the trip to the vacation spot. I hate gaining road-trip weight so I came up with my Slim Solution to a Fluffy Problem. 

Drink LOTS & LOTS & LOTS of WATER!: This is the most simple solution to maintaining a healthy weight especially during a very long trip believe me. I know most people hate to stop during long car rides (myself included) and drinking lots of water is a sure fire way of everyone having to potty lol BUT proper Hydration is very very important! Water serves many purposes in the overall wellness of the body including fat flushing. When your on a road trip for hours or even days at a time your body takes a beat down because you aren't giving it the attention it needs. A lot of the time our bodies get dehydrated during these long trips and we need to replenish them with fresh water. I also suggest taking a vitamin supplement before the trip since you wont be able to eat well balanced meals on this long of a trip. My rule of the road is allow yourself one fruit juice drink or energy drink [For the driver(s)] for the entire ride but other than that leave the Soda and sugary drinks at home!

DANCE YO ASS OFF!: A great playlist on a road trip can be just as fun as going to the club with your girls. Dancing is a great way to burn calories and considering you will be sitting in a car for hours it might even be the only time you get to really move around other than the occasional stop for gas. Even though I'm not very good at it I LOVE To DANCE, ESPECIALLY CAR DANCING! There is no better place to bust a move than when your on a road trip with friends or family. Make sure you have a designated DJ who sits in the passenger seat and controls the radio....They need to be the "Fun Friend" who will keep the car live. Don't get me wrong everyone loves a good Beyonce' sing along BUT sappy songs the whole ride is No Bueno! Along with killing time and promoting a great car ride, dancing will help promote a little movement in the body and that's better for you than sleeping the whole way.....So plug in the iPhone, throw on the Twerk Team playlist lol, turn the radio on MAX volume & DON'T DROP THAT THUN THUN THUN!!!! (side-note: Buckle Up! Safety First)

Snack SMART!: Snacks on a road trip are essential but knowing how to snack smart is also very important. A lot of a road trip is truly just sitting in the same spot for hours so of course you will be more tempted to eat for absolutely no reason other than the fact that your bored as hell. The simple solution to that is ONLY PACK HEALTHY SNACK ALTERNATIVES! Fresh fruit is always my go to when it comes to road trips. Make or buy a fruit salad so you have a variety of fruits to eat and stick it in the cooler. You also want to include snacks that are high in proteins like nuts and different trail mixes to keep you and the driver alert during the lengthy car ride. I typically like to eat before the road trip so I'm not as hungry it helps cut down on over indulging. My weakness is chips so I like to find chip alternatives like Pita chips, Banana chips and rice cakes. As long as you find healthy snacks to fill the car up with you cant go wrong. 

                           I don't have it all figured out, I'm just trying to get my figure right!

YUMMY: Jazzy Chef Salad!

THE BEST CHEF SALAD YOU WILL EVER EAT & ITS PRETTY LOL!

What You Need:
Large Bowl
Lemons
Olive Oil
Garlic
Baby Shrimp
Chicken Breast
Cheddar Cheese
Tomatoes
Eggs
Baby Spinach
Salt
Black Pepper
Onion/Garlic Powder

What to do:
Saute Chicken breast at a medium heat with Olive Oil, garlic, lemon juice, salt, pepper, onion and garlic powder for 15 mins or until completely done. Chop into strips and place to the side. Add baby shrimp into the pan and saute the same way as the chicken for about 5 mins or until shrimp is tender and place to the side. Boil Eggs and chop up into small chunks... place to the side. Add Baby Spinach into the bowl. Dice tomatoes and place them in a line on the end of the bowl. Take boiled eggs and line them up next to the tomatoes. Repeat with grater cheddar cheese, chicken and shrimp and serve!

                           I don't have it all figured out, I'm just trying to get my figure right!

Dazzling Date Night

Whether your in a relationship or just dating around you should know how to prepare for your date nights. I LOVE LOVE LOVE date night. If your in a relationship it gives you a chance catch up with your booski lol. You get to step back from the everyday world and just come together with your partner to truly enjoy each others company. If your just dating this is the time that you get to meet new people and figure out qualities you Love and what you want in your new potential Boo! Either way you need to know how to dress and where to get the things that will have you looking and feeling your best.

Get The right Doo: Your hair says a lot about you believe it or not. I am an avid weave wearer and I feel like I have the best hairdresser in the world (Listed Below).                                                                                 

Ms.Zahava Contact Number: (470) 767-1158, IG Zahavagold_hairartistry SHE'S THE BEST!!

 

 Hair can make or break your entire look believe me no body wants to see a raggedy head piece. Your hair should be just as expressive as your personality. JUST TO CLARIFY!...When I say that I don't mean you should walk around with a crayola box on top of your head UNLESS THAT'S YOUR THING lol but seriously you should always take pride in your own unique look. The Key to keeping your hair up during the date is CHECK THE WEATHER FORECAST FOR THE DAY! Weather is defiantly a determining factor for ALL HAIR TYPES. If your expecting ugly weather there are plenty of ways to still look your best while maintaining your hair. 

• Rock A MEEEAAANNN Up-do!- I love a fly up-do! It gives you a chance to expose your beautiful face and wear some bomb ass accessories. Some of my favorite fabulous up-dos are The classic MESSY BUN Perfect for bad weather or just a quick cute look. THE ZAMUNDA BRAID OMG I love this look so much it looks so regal it can turn any woman into a Nubian princess. THE PIN UP a few bobby pins could make ya hair look amazing while keeping it up in the weather.  
• GO CURLY!- A curly Hairstyle is great for bad weather because its supposed to be a little messy and unorthodox. They are very trendy and versatile so you can style it to your liking.
• Utilize Scarfs & Hats- If you know me you know I LOVE my scarfs SOOOOO much! They can turn an ordinary outfit into something extremely fly with very little effort. Scarfs are so versatile you can tie them in so many ways Bows, Buns, Rolls, Turbans, Braids the options are limitless (I will be doing a Scarf tying post later on this week by the way). A cute hat is just as effective! 

Get Your Makeup Done: You want to look your best on date night and there's nothing wrong with a little enhancer. I'm in love with Black eyeliner but honestly I'm not a huge makeup girl simply because I don't know how to apply it properly so if I want my face beat I usually let someone else do it lol! Makeup done well can help enhance your look especially if your looking for a more dramatic look overall. BUT IF YOU DON'T KNOW HOW TO PROPERLY APPLY IT DON'T!!! I hate seeing women walk around with them big ass eye brows! There is nothing wrong with paying to get you makeup done professionally or calling a friend to do it for you. Lucky me my roommate is a GREAT freelance makeup artist (Listed Below) so if I have any questions I usually go to her! Its way better to get your makeup done rather than going on a date looking like a damn clown. 

TOP WORKS: Ms.Aleasha, IG- leasharae_ (ATL)   BOTTOM WORKS: Ms.Monica, IG- Dreadloccouture (SC)  

 

Dress For The Occasion: Dress for the occasion. You can keep it cute and casual or sassy and sexy its all up to you and the venue. If your going out to a nice dinner date or something more formal your best bet is to throw them heels on and find a cute dress. If your going on a more casual date Jeans, a sexy top and accessories will almost always works. The key to getting dressed for dates is to not dwell on it so much. If your feeling your best it will always shine through stay true to yourself and don't be scared to show a little skin after all this is a date not bible study just remember to keep it classy! 

• Here are some great plus sized websites that I use frequently for my date night outfits as well as any other event.

http://curvaceousboutique.3dcartstores.com/category_index.asp
http://curvychicboutique.bigcartel.com/
http://www.fashiontofigure.com/

                           I don't have it all figured out, I'm just trying to get my figure right!

DO BETTER!

There is a MAJOR difference between a "Plus-Size Diva" and a "Plus-Size Disaster"!!!! Being the plus size queen that I am I try to hold myself to a certain standard especially when it comes to my physical appearance. I'm a strong believer in inner beauty but in reality its very hard to get to know a person's inside if the outside is a Hot Ass Mess. I love women of all shapes and sizes but I feel like my fellow fluffy ladies NEED TO DO BETTER! I'm so tired of seeing curvy girls not reaching their full potential due to lack of self-confidence and ultimately respect!

Even though these photos are funny THIS IS REAL!!!

Keep It Tight!- I notice there is a lack of self worth in the plus size community that seems to leave some ladies in a desperate state. Just because you are a curvy woman DOSE NOT MEAN  you have to settle for anything in this life..... It also DOSE NOT MEAN you have to be a promiscuous to feel romantic love. Sometimes woman will do anything to gain attention from guys including lower themselves and their standards. You will never find the love of your life by exposing all your goodies online or sleeping with every dude that shows you a little attention. Learn to love yourself and the love of others will follow suit. WE GOT TO DO BETTER!

Keep It Real!- Stop kidding yourself Everything aint for EVERYBODY! Wear things that flatter your shape. The beauty in life is diversity....We are ALL made totally different so you cant expect to duplicate every look without some modifications. You can be sexy a fashionable but you have to do what works for you and stop trying to do what works for everyone else. We all have imperfections that we should embrace but at the same time the world dose not have to see your booty hanging out and each and every one of your rolls for you to be a proud plus-size women. WE GOT TO DO BETTER!

Keep It Respectful!- Don't HATE on ANYONE! Just because your a fluffy lady you cant be hateful towards those that are less fluffy than you lol. Women love to compete with each other because for some reason ladies feel threatened by other ladies. It kills me when I hear Plus-Size women call slim women "Skinny Bitches" but will RAISE HELL if someone even utters the word FAT around them. BE REAL disrespect is disrespect plain and simple appreciate your fellow female rather than trying to tear her down. Learn how to give compliments to other ladies and stop Hating! Putting down others will never make you a happier women. WE GOT TO DO BETTER!

                       DO BETTER LADIES! WORKING ON US ONE DAY AT A TIME! 

                             I don't have it all figured out, I'm just trying to get my figure right!

YUMMY: Layered Fruit Salad

I Love fruit Salad because it looks as just as good as it tastes! Its perfect for the summer, Super Easy to make and its a great item to bring to an event. Here's What you need to make this colorful treat.

Grapes (Whatever color you like)
Kiwi
Blueberries
Strawberries
Fresh Pineapple Chucks
Sweet Coconut flakes (Optional)
Vanilla Pudding (Optional)
A Large glass bowl or Vase (Must be Transparent)

                                 

To begin rinse off all fruit. Cut up the Strawberries into medium size chunks and cut the Kiwi into small chunks. Grab your glassware and layer The Pineapple chunks first, followed by the Strawberries, Blueberries, and Grapes at the top. Next Poor the Pudding over the top layer of Grapes. Sprinkle on the Kiwi and Coconut flakes to top. Let it sit in the fridge for 10 min & Enjoy!

                          I don't have it all figured out, I'm just trying to get my figure right. 

Fourth of July Do's and Don'ts

The Fourth of July is one of my absolute favorite holidays! It's an American celebration full of food, friends, fun and of course Drinks whats not to like? I know a lot of people will be going out to enjoy the holiday and in order to stay safe and truly enjoy your Fourth of July you should follow certain guidelines to ensure you get the most of your Independents Day.

1. HAVE A PLAN-  Being spontaneous can be exciting but it could also be extremely disappointing with these type of holidays. There is always a ton of things going on, everybody is throwing something and that's even more reason for you to not wait until the last minute to figure out when and where you want to be. If you want to hit up different events organize a plan before hand so you can have an idea of where you will begin and end your day. Waiting until the last minute to make plans can become so hectic and overwhelming to the point where you end up going absolutely no where & THAT SUX. I say all that just to say try to have your plan set to make things go more smoothly. I guarantee you with get more out of the day.

2. DRESS APPROPRIATELY- Just because this a patriotic holiday DOSE NOT MEAN you will get away with wrapping an American flag around ya ass and walking out the door lol. That's a HUGE MISCONCEPTION.....I see this at least once EVERY year. The key to having a GREAT TIME on the fourth is of course dressing the part. Depending on where you go is how you should select your outfit. Being trendy and fashionable is all good but being comfortable is most important of all. Most 4th of July events are outdoors so dress the part...sandals, hats, sun dresses, shorts all those things are outside friendly.Its summer time so wear bright colors and try tattered clothes like ripped jeans and crop tops. If your cute and comfortable you cant go wrong no matter where you choose to celebrate on the 4th.

L TO R: Cherish @SoulfulCher, Debora @Debstarbitch, Danni @Liivelovedanii_

                                        

3. DON'T BE TACKY- People tend to forget this rule a lot when they go to BBQs or Potlucks on the 4th of July. If you know your going to any kind of social event with friends and family that involves food you should always bring something just out of courtesy. If your not sure what to bring ask the host of the event to see what is needed. Bring a dish from home if you like to cook.....I will be posting a YUMMY post soon for you guys so you can see how to make one of my favorite 4th of July recipes. If you don't want to bring food you can also bring a gift for the host that's is always very courteous and thoughtful... A bottle of wine, flowers anything sweet just to let them know you thought about it.

                                                    

4. KNOW YOUR LIMITS- This tip applies to not only drinking but also eating! Don't forget that there is a 5th of July lol meaning don't waste all your progress on one day because it's ONLY one day. Enjoy the day and the food in moderation but don't over indulge.The same goes for drinking...Have fun get your buzz on lol but know your limits and make sure if you do drink you have a safe ride home. I hope everyone has a fun and safe 4th of July I Know I will! Enjoy.

I don't have it all figured out, I'm just trying to get my figure right.