Breaking Through the Breakup

No matter who you are or where your from there is one universal fact of life, SERIOUSLY BAD BREAKUPS ALWAYS SUCK!....That being said its all up to you how long it takes for you to get your mind back right! I myself have been through a truly bad breakup in my lifetime and I had to get myself back together as hard as it may have felt at the time but it was something I had to do! Everyone deals with their emotions a little differently and that's one of the most important things to remember when getting over a bad breakup. The aftermath of a bad breakup has its stages and you have to work through each stage. In the words of the ratchets There are Levels to this honey! lol

Level 1 Pity Party: The initial aftermath of a breakup is like a fresh wound...IT HURTS LIKE HELL! My advice to anyone in this level of the breakup give yourself a Day ALONE to have your little pity party. Drag yourself to the store and buy some tissues to get your cry on, some headache meds for after you got your scream on and of course buy your favorite snacks so you can get your eat on (Try healthy snacks no need to be depressed and gaining weight lol) . Put on the sad love songs and your most comfortable pajamas and don't put on anything else for the day. This is your time to express all of your sadness and rage without having to deal with any one else's opinion or judgement. I love emotional writing so what I tend to do is get my pen, my pad and just write it out. Something about the tears rolling down my face onto the paper as I write my feelings out is so therapeutic for me. Once I'm done writing and my tears have all dried up I fold the paper up and set it on fire! A little dramatic I know but its all in good symbolism. Get some rest and look forward to the next day. Depending on the type of person you are you may not even need an entire day just make sure you make that alone time for yourself.

Level 2 Turn Up: After you have had your day alone to vent its time to call on your best friends for their support. Your friends and family are usually the biggest support system you have so you have to look to them in these times when you really need the attention. Get dressed up, beautify that hair and make-up and have a fabulous girls night out! This is the time for you to truly enjoy your friends company and just release all the negative vibes. I know this step can sometimes be harder to do when you are still a little hurt but that's why your friends are there for to support you and lift you out your slump....so Laugh, Drink, Dance sweat your weave out and  have a great night.

Level 3 Work it Out: Find a workout plan (if you didn't already have one) and stick with it. This level of the breakup is strictly for your overall wellness. Working out is a great way to promote the clarity of your mind, body and soul...after any pain clarity is key to recovery. I like to walking because it gives me a chance to think and just experience piece of mind. I love workout tapes as well because they show you exactly what you need to do and are usually fun.  A new group of Fitness videos I would recommend are made by a company called "No Waist Gang". You can find these videos on YouTube (Links below). Working out can truly help you get whatever drama you have going on off your mind and is necessary especially after a bad breakup. Not to mention the fact that your getting in shape!

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Level 4 Move On!!!: This step is self explanatory! You truly have to move on from the past and look forward to your future endeavors. Some people that are brought in our lives are not meant to be permanent fixtures in our presence but they have taught us lessons that will never leave us. Life goes on and TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS. Live Life and Love again!

                           I don't have it all figured out, I'm just trying to get my figure right!