Pussy On A Pedestal

Although we toast to 2014, the brand new year has yet to change many people's out dated perceptions of the female species. Women were never meant to be placed in a box behind a man,but socially we are expected take the back seat to our masculine counterparts. Why Is That?

Who do we blame for these misogynistic ideals? Some say the media's portrayal of women is to blame. I believe the wide spread coverage and misleading images of femininity on television, and music can only effect those that are ignorant to the matter. The picture perfect “Leave it to Beaver” perception of the idealistic American family has been an image inscribed into our minds for decades. The structured home with a male dominant as the sole provider for the household has changed dramatically over the past decades. Truth be told, there are just as many single women in the country who hold down the fort just as well; if not better than a man could.The media’s stereotypes of women may have a direct effect on the minds of the American public, but we don’t have to let it effect us on an individual level. The barrios of gender are drawn in the sands of society’s beach but will wash away with the sea of knowledge.

Women are often looked at to be only as valuable as their physical assets. Our mental capacity can be overlooked and ignored depending on how cute we are or how well we know how to shake our asses. Some men will even refer to a women by referencing her genitals. One of the more "Interesting" statements I've heard from a young man was "You can never give the BOX too much credit". If you didn't already know, BOX is used as a slang term for vagina. The Box, The Pussy, The Female, The Woman...These are all phrases that are used interchangeably throughout a plethora of peoples conversations. Phrases such as these can consume the minds of the male species, allowing them to relay back to misogynistic values.

Some guys will put women's pussy on a pedestal before they even get to know her personally. Oh the great lengths men have gone through just to have sex with a women they barely even knew. My question is this.....If women can have "control" over man with just the mere use of our physical assets just imagine if we put our words and minds into effect.....WE COULD DOMINATE THE ENTIRE MALE SPECIES! 

There is so much power in the X chromosome, that's why men are only allowed to have one. That's just a joke. I'm actually not just some man hating women, I love men!!! especially the Good ones, but I just hope for the day when we are looked at as mental equals instead of always being in a constant "Battle of the Sexes". Let me be your counterpart and not your second in command. Own your intelligence because eventually your pussy will slowly fall off the pedestal.  

I don't have it all figured out, I'm just trying to get my figure right.

YUMMY: Spinach Quiche

One of my favorite fall foods has to be Quiche! Its great for breakfast brunch and even dinner a truly all purpose food. Its simple to make and you can put whatever you wan in it honestly. This Quiche recipe is one of my favorites I got from Allrecipes.com . It is perfect if your entertaining guests or for you and your family.

Ingredients: (You can add or remove ingredients according to your own personal taste!)

• 1/2 cup butter
• 3 cloves garlic, chopped
• 1 small onion, chopped
• 1 (10 ounce) package frozen chopped spinach, thawed and drained
• 1 (4.5 ounce) can mushrooms, drained
• 1 (6 ounce) package herb and garlic feta, crumbled
• 1 (8 ounce) package shredded Cheddar cheese
• salt and pepper to taste
• 1 (9 inch) unbaked deep dish pie crust
• 4 eggs, beaten
• 1 cup milk
• salt and pepper to taste

Directions: (Takes about an Hour)

1. Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C).
2. In a medium skillet, melt butter over medium heat. Saute garlic and onion in butter until lightly browned, about 7 minutes. Stir in spinach, mushrooms, feta and 1/2 cup Cheddar cheese. Season with salt and pepper. Spoon mixture into pie crust.
3. In a medium bowl, whisk together eggs and milk. Season with salt and pepper. Pour into the pastry shell, allowing egg mixture to thoroughly combine with spinach mixture.
4. Bake in preheated oven for 15 minutes. Sprinkle top with remaining Cheddar cheese, and bake an additional 35 to 40 minutes, until set in center. Allow to stand 10 minutes before serving.

Fabulous Fluffy Fall

Yes God its my favorite time of the year Automate!!! I love the colors, weather, fashion, food and of course the holidays! This is the time of the year when the wind begins to whistle, the leaves begin to change color and we begin to transition  our wardrobes. We trade in our crop tops for cardigans and sandals for saddle boots. I love shopping for fall it gives me a chance to add to my collection of hats, scarf, sweaters, coats and all the cozy things I adore. This is also a time to recycle some of your summer gear and use it as a more versatile garment.

This fresh fall look uses a tribal button up collard shirt that could easily transition throughout the seasons! For more details on the outfit contact my handsome model via Instagram @DiamondDash_

I am a huge boot lover! I love all kinds of boots especially in the fall and winter months. Tall boots and riding boots are always in but if you are a plus size lady with thick legs like myself it can sometimes be next to impossible to find boots that go over the calf muscle easily. I have this problem every fall so I began to search for a sexy comfortable boot. Thank God for Forever 21+ felt my pain and have included fashionable boots with a calf extension to their collection. They have a great variety of color and textures to choose from not to mention their selection of booties! They are a great place to check out if you share this problem with me.

Forever21+ Website Link

Forever21+ not only had a great shoe selection but also some very cute, creative, and affordable sweaters that are always great for Fall comfort. 

Forever21+ Link to Website

If you know me you know I love a fly ass coat for fall. A coat has to provide comfort, be light enough but most important be warm and cozy! One of my favorite websites to check out  really stylish and trendy coats is Fashion to Figure. They also have a few boutiques in  the Upper East coast so if your in the NY, NJ, CT, MD area look for the closes one near you. When I'm in New York I go to the boutique in King Plaza mall on Flatbush Avenue in Brooklyn. There coasts are really affordable ( Nothing over 50$) and they can last a while if taken care of properly.

Fashion To Figure Web Link

Although fall is typically when you cover up there are still times when you want to go out and be sexy. I love a long sleeve club dress in fall. The sleeves not only keep you warm in the street but they also add to the allure of your outfit. Sophistication is key when it comes to club dresses because you can go from a class act to ratchet rather quickly if your not mindful. I found plenty of dresses fitting for fall on a website called Curvaceous Boutique.  They have a great quality product and great service.

CurvaceousBoutique Web Link


"I don't have it all figured out I'm just trying to get my figure right!"

"Twerk Out"

As a fluffy lady I have to always stay up on my diet and exercise. In my experiences I have learned that the more interesting the work out plan, the easier it is for a person to stick to it. Today's progression of more unorthodox fitness plans are far from the 80's workout era of VHS and leotards. There is almost every kind of work out you can think of now. Trendy workouts always come and go but the most important thing is that you find a plan that actually works for you. If you love to dance whether it be in the club or even in the privacy of your own home its always a great workout. The recent new dance craze called Twerking has become a major epidemic in not only the Hip-Hop community but all genres of people thanks to controversial buzz of Miley Cyrus. Twerking is not only a sexual dance done for likes on social networks but it can also be a great source of a workout.

Twerking can be defined as the rapid gyration of the gluteus muscles in the thighs and derriere region. This rapid muscle movement done in proper repetition can serve as a very healthy and fun way to workout. Twerking requires the muscles in your legs, thighs, and butt to synchronize in turn promoting a more tones physical appearance in your lower body. The rapid movement of your body with the music also promotes the elevation of your heart rate allowing your body to burn calories. The cardio and toning aspects of twerking make it one of the most creative and low maintenance effective exercises. The only real supplies needed for twerking are comfortable clothing, lots of space and your favorite ass shaking music lol.

So when you hear your favorite twerk anthem don't be afraid to shake something. Enjoy it and own your twerk! The most important part of it all is to have fun and DON'T DROP THAT THUN THUN THUN! lol

I don't have it all figured out, I'm just trying to get my figure right.

Long Distance Love

One of the greatest things a person can experience in this life is to find that one other human being in the world you can give your heart to. In my opinion love is a combination of so many different feelings all wrapped up into one distinct emotion. Love is joyous, painful, exciting, confusing and so many other things but one thing love will never be is PREDICTABLE. When two people come together and decided that there ready to embark on a romantic relationship love can often be tested....especially if you live NO WHERE NEAR your partner. Long distance relationships are more common now than ever before. With the huge access of communication technology its simple to keep in contact with a person from a distance but when that person is the man or women you love its NEVER AN EASY MATTER.

Don't get me wrong I am no love guru but I feel like I myself am going through the process of learning how to maintain a healthy long distance relationship. I know your probabley thinking what the hell do you know about being in a long distance relationship Ms.Fluffy Figures... well I honestly know a little something because the love of my life lives a driving distance of over 10 hours away from me. I am currently a resident of Atlanta, GA and my significant other lives in the state of New York. I met my boyfriend on March 13th, 2010 at a party in Atlanta. He was visiting his mother (who coincidentally lives right down the street from my mother's house lol) and of course with my luck I met him the weekend he was going back home. We shared some dances and eventually exchanged numbers. He asked me "Will You Be My Girlfriend For the Weekend?", I laughed and agreed to his silly proposal and we hit it off from there. We stayed in contact after that weekend and eventually became close friends over the years. I'm from New York as well so I would see him when I went back home to visit my family and he saw me when he came to visit his mom in Georgia. Our friendship grew into true love throughout the years but we still never really considered being in an actual relationship because of the distance....until a certain chain of events occurred and we realized the love we both had for each other was worth a try. The Long-Distance is still very fresh for me so everyday is a new learning experience for us but I have learned how to deal with a few common hurdles most people face when it comes to allowing the relationship to run as smoothly as possible.

DISMISS OUTSIDE NEGATIVITY: The romantic love between two people can never be defined  by any outsider because it is exclusively formulated for YOU & YOUR PARTNER! When your in a long distance relationship there will always be some type of opinion thrown at you even when your not asking for it. People do not respond well to things they don't understand and as easily as it is to feed into everyone else's opinion sometimes you have to follow you own mind. The only people who will truly understand your  relationship is you and your love. You cant let people's negative vibes become a factor in your relationship. Would you let someone from the outside come in your bed to cuddle up with you and your boo...Hell No! So why let them cuddle up in your relationship with their negativity? I have learned that it is better to listen to my own gut feeling rather than running to everyone else for theirs. Look to your family and friends for support because you will need it from time to time but in the end you will be the best at judging your own situation as long as you keep in real and stay true to yourself.

LEARN TO TRUST: In any relationship near or far TRUST IS EVERYTHING! If you cant trust your partner there is no reason to even consider a relationship let alone a long distance commitment. People often don't understand that trust goes way past just being monogamous within your relationship. Trusting someone means that when all the chips are down you trust that person to have your back and be there for you. If you are unsure that you can trust that a person will be there for you through the rain as well as the sunshine than they are not the one for you plain and simple. Everyone has there jealous/insecure moments in a relationship IT'S NORMAL but those moments should be few and far between. Most of us have been hurt before but you cant let a past relationship ruin your current situation JUST MOVE ON. If you find yourself always feeling insecure in your own relationship there is a problem.... either your partner is an ass hole or you have some growing to do as a person before you can continue in any relationship especially one from a distance. I have never really been a jealous person in general so I never really had to deal with major trust issues. My rules are simple, if I have the feeling that I cant trust you based off your actions I wont even give you the time of day. If I allow a person to come into my life and they abuse my trust in any way they have to go and that's just real. I won't let anyone turn me into the crazy jealous girlfriend because that's just not me....I don't snoop, go through phones or none of that bull shit because I don't even allow it to get that far. Once I feel like I cant trust you and I have to take time out to start playing detective for whatever reason that means its time for you to go. No relationship can work without trust and if you don't have it work on it or just be real with yourself and cut your losses.

UTILIZE TECHNOLOGY: We live in the era of Facebook, Video Chat, & Smartphones There is no reason why you should have communication issues in a long distant relationship. Conversation is a HUGE chunk of your relationship so it should flow very naturally when you are with your partner. Most of the time people in long distance relationships communicate better than couples who live in the same damn house. We have that connection because we have no other choice. If you cant see your partner as often as you would like you should practice using the web cam. Web cams give you the visual connect you long for as well as allowing you to feel closer to your partner. I personally feel like my boyfriend is right in the room with me when we talk on the phone....scary I know lol the connection just feels that strong. If your interested in the more physical connection get creative with pictures and video. I don't know about you but I like sex and that is one of the hardest parts of being so distant but when you do get that together time TAKE ADVANTAGE! Panties off first, conversation later lol. Durex, the condom company, is actually working on an app called "Funderwear" powered through iPhone. This app allows you to put on special underwear that receives stimulation with the control of your partners cell phone so its like there touching your fun parts....SOUNDS CRAZY I KNOW it takes phone sex to a whole new level lol! That may not the be the route for you (or me lol) but its still very interesting.

More information and video demonstration of Durex "Funderwear" at the link below
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/19/durex-vibrating-underwear_n_3116777.html

MAKE TIME: You have to set times where you can get the chance to actually see each other. It may be hard financially so you have to plan ahead but don't let to much time past if you can control it. You are in an actual relationship so you still need to make time for each other. My financial tip is PLAN AHEAD most transportation tickets are always cheaper the earlier you book them so keep up with discounts and times. Also bring friends along to split the gas price. Turn your visit into a mini vacation and you can divide the coast of the trip. Take turns in who travels where if you can. This makes it more fair to everyone's pockets.

PLAN FOR RELOCATION: The reality of long distance relationships is that they should be a temporary thing. If the relationship is serious enough one of you should be considering a permanent relocation. Let's be clear neither one of you should just up and leave without a legitimate plan. Don't ever relocate unless you are 100% that the move will be the best thing for YOU! You need to be sure that even if this relationship dose not last that you will still be stable and it wasn't in vain. You honestly cannot go your whole life in a long distance relationship so something is going to have to happen whether you move, they move or you both move on. Good Luck in your journey through the long distance commitments and wish me luck as well!

 

Masturbating Metabolism

 I believe that 90 percent of the women in the world Masturbate and the other 10 percent are most likely all pathological liars lol. If you are unsure of the true meaning of the word masturbation, the textbook definition according to www.Merriam-Webster.com is; "[The] erotic stimulation especially of one's own genital organs commonly resulting in orgasm and achieved by manual or other bodily contact exclusive of sexual intercourse, by instrumental manipulation, occasionally by sexual fantasies, or by various combinations of these agencies." In plain English masturbation is nothing more than trying to obtain sexual pleasure and reach and orgasmic peak without the use of another persons genitals, Instead you manually stimulate yourself with you hands or my personal preference with the use of a sex toy of some kind. 

Female Sexuality was more widely acceptable and celebrated in more ancient times such as the renaissance period.  In the artist, Titian's painting "Venus of Urbino" The female in this portrait is Masturbating. 

Many people consider masturbation to be taboo or even a perversion in some senses but in actuality it is a very natural and even healthy sexual act. Masturbation has even been a proven factor in weight loss.....YEA I SAID IT "PETTING THE KITTY" HELPS WITH WEIGHT LOSS!!! If you have ever exercised for a long period of time you notice you feel a sense of Euphoria (Good Feeling) which is caused by positive blood flow throughout the body.....Now if you have masturbated for a period long enough to orgasm you will also notice you feel that same euphoric feeling there is a reason for that! Losing weight is ALL ABOUT burning more calories than you consume and most sexual act are extremely physical depending on your sex life of course so they are GREAT for burning calories. Masturbating in particular is very good for keeping the heart rate up before or after an exercise routine. Masturbation also helps positive blood flow in the body thus promoting heart health and a more functional cardiovascular system. This means when you decide to do any cardio exercises such as going jogging or anything strenuous you wont lose your breath as easily. 

Aside from just losing weight masturbation has many sexual-health benefits as well. Every time you masturbate your sexual organs are releasing once you reach an orgasm and ultimately cleansing themselves. If you are a woman masturbation also promotes more ACTUAL orgasms during sex with your partner.....I know you had to fake a few once before lol! I personally had never reached a sexual orgasm before I began to masturbate. When you manually stimulate yourself it makes it easier for your "Hot Spots" to be stimulated again with the help of a partner. Climaxing during sex promotes weight loss by exorcising the vaginal muscles and again working for your cardiovascular system. Experimenting with your partner during masturbation can help you more easily reach your climax rather than being alone and it helps you both learn more about each others bodies.

Do not be scared to explore your body its a normal thing and believe it or not most of us have done it whether we where in a relationship or not. Masturbation is not an shameful act and honestly its less risky than any other sex act because you obviously cant gain a potential Sexually Transmitted Disease from a sexual partner. Pleasuring yourself can sometimes be more satisfying than actual sex with a partner and that's just 100% real..... the health and weight loss benefits are a HUGE PLUS in it all. So the next time your alone and comfortable don't be scared to try something new..... Nobody Knows Your Body Better Than You!

                           I don't have it all figured out, I'm just trying to get my figure right!

Breaking Through the Breakup

No matter who you are or where your from there is one universal fact of life, SERIOUSLY BAD BREAKUPS ALWAYS SUCK!....That being said its all up to you how long it takes for you to get your mind back right! I myself have been through a truly bad breakup in my lifetime and I had to get myself back together as hard as it may have felt at the time but it was something I had to do! Everyone deals with their emotions a little differently and that's one of the most important things to remember when getting over a bad breakup. The aftermath of a bad breakup has its stages and you have to work through each stage. In the words of the ratchets There are Levels to this honey! lol

Level 1 Pity Party: The initial aftermath of a breakup is like a fresh wound...IT HURTS LIKE HELL! My advice to anyone in this level of the breakup give yourself a Day ALONE to have your little pity party. Drag yourself to the store and buy some tissues to get your cry on, some headache meds for after you got your scream on and of course buy your favorite snacks so you can get your eat on (Try healthy snacks no need to be depressed and gaining weight lol) . Put on the sad love songs and your most comfortable pajamas and don't put on anything else for the day. This is your time to express all of your sadness and rage without having to deal with any one else's opinion or judgement. I love emotional writing so what I tend to do is get my pen, my pad and just write it out. Something about the tears rolling down my face onto the paper as I write my feelings out is so therapeutic for me. Once I'm done writing and my tears have all dried up I fold the paper up and set it on fire! A little dramatic I know but its all in good symbolism. Get some rest and look forward to the next day. Depending on the type of person you are you may not even need an entire day just make sure you make that alone time for yourself.

Level 2 Turn Up: After you have had your day alone to vent its time to call on your best friends for their support. Your friends and family are usually the biggest support system you have so you have to look to them in these times when you really need the attention. Get dressed up, beautify that hair and make-up and have a fabulous girls night out! This is the time for you to truly enjoy your friends company and just release all the negative vibes. I know this step can sometimes be harder to do when you are still a little hurt but that's why your friends are there for to support you and lift you out your slump....so Laugh, Drink, Dance sweat your weave out and  have a great night.

Level 3 Work it Out: Find a workout plan (if you didn't already have one) and stick with it. This level of the breakup is strictly for your overall wellness. Working out is a great way to promote the clarity of your mind, body and soul...after any pain clarity is key to recovery. I like to walking because it gives me a chance to think and just experience piece of mind. I love workout tapes as well because they show you exactly what you need to do and are usually fun.  A new group of Fitness videos I would recommend are made by a company called "No Waist Gang". You can find these videos on YouTube (Links below). Working out can truly help you get whatever drama you have going on off your mind and is necessary especially after a bad breakup. Not to mention the fact that your getting in shape!

No Waist Gang!

Level 4 Move On!!!: This step is self explanatory! You truly have to move on from the past and look forward to your future endeavors. Some people that are brought in our lives are not meant to be permanent fixtures in our presence but they have taught us lessons that will never leave us. Life goes on and TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS. Live Life and Love again!

                           I don't have it all figured out, I'm just trying to get my figure right!